Like a recipe for a great dish, it’s about having a combination of ingredients working in your favour: a couple of well-lit, authentic pictures of yourself, combined with a pinch of wit, a decent helping of honesty, and generous servings of thoughtfulness, individuality, and attention to detail.
The obvious points of picking photos are to make them (1) flattering, and (2) accurate.
There isn’t one big secret to success at online dating.
It’s not your profile photo (though a good one helps). An awesome dating profile always stands out from the crowd It’s not how many messages you send out or how much time you spend browsing other people’s profiles.
I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.
So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.